How do you handle negative people in your life when they are your loved ones? #happiness

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I post on Quora (you can find my answers here). The question in the title attracted my attention because this is something I am trying to figure out (my take on it is here). But it’s Rosalyn’s answer (right) that blew my mind away.

She made 3 points about dealing with negative people (NP) which instantly resonated:

  1. Stop focusing on the NP.
  2. It takes self love and acceptance to not react.
  3. Life is too short to struggle with people.

And just like that a seismic mind shift took place and I felt a bit lighter (aka liberated). Can I deal calmly with my brother when I see him next? I don’t know. But I am definitely going to work on this whole self love thing.

Life is too short to struggle with people.

 

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‘One day, I woke up and decided I deserved the best in life and no one was going to get in my way’

IMG_2035I occasionally like to catch up on the latest music by using lists like Grammy nominees. This week I listened to Khalid, an American singer and songwriter. It is what he said on Twitter that got me the most. This is really good advice, because as H.D.Thoreau puts it, ‘what a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates, his fate’. Practice self care and self love this weekend, dear nomads, think big and most importantly act!

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Art Saturday – Spanish still life #amwriting

I am making more time to write and it’s amazing. I wanted to share my new poem today. At the moment I am inspired by Frank O’Hara. Hope you make time for creativity, positive experiences and people you love this weekend. Have fun!

Spanish still life

I am gorging on
Bocadillo de tortilla
What an undiscovered gem!
Adding an occasional olive
(Have you seen olive prices lately?)
Washing it down with oloroso
Fine but not Jimenez
And it was Jimenez I was after…
In retrospect
It is rather fitting
For this autumn
Why sweeten the bitterness?
I don’t care what Brits think
About jerez
They are wrong.
It is pure bottled
Spanish sun.
Which is always with me
In my heart.

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The Tibetan Book of the Dead is not about death (part 2) #happiness

I finally got the book, the first translated edition (UK readers, you can get one here). And it is amazing. Nothing like what I expected! It is not about death at all. It is about enlightenment, how to achieve it and how to live according to Buddhist principles. I read only a couple of pages and already had a few profound insights, like the quote below. It is not an easy read – lots of references and ‘Buddhist jargon’, but it is an enlightening one and many pages read like a song (well, they are designed like prayers). I now read a couple of pages of this book instead of meditating. Namaste, nomads, have a nice weekend!

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The Tibetan Book of the Dead is not about death (part 1) #happiness

I wanted to read this book forever but despite my interest in death and dying, I was a bit conscious of the subject. Then I watched this documentary (link to part 2 is on the right side of the video when you click through). They show a dead body and a full ritual that Tibetans go through before burial. Isn’t it fascinating how they do it? I’d love to have a ritual like this before or when I die… I got the book and it’s not about death, if anything, it’s more about living and how to live well. I will tell you more next week…

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Where should we begin? Esther Perel’s new podcast on couple therapy #happiness

I found this podcast to be eye opening in many ways and recommend it to anyone grappling with the ‘why’s’ of relationships. Esther provides new perspectives, shares her techniques and asks some tough questions. You can find it on iTunes (free) or Audible (paid or limited free if you enrol into their trial).

Step into iconic relationship therapist Esther Perel’s office and listen as 10 anonymous couples in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their story. From infidelity, to sexlessness, to loss, it’s a space for people to be heard and understood. It’s also a place for us to listen and feel empowered in our own relationships. So…where should we begin?

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Highly sensitive people at work – interview

I did an interview with my friend Anastasia who is a coach specialising in helping Highly Sensitive People (HSP) succeed at work. I hope some of the tips I am sharing may help provide a new perspective to introverted and/or highly sensitive people and so help them succeed. There were issues with the technology so I recommend you listen to the audio only unless you have steel nerves, unlike myself, and the lag between audio and video does not bother you 🙂

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