How to fail better and not spiral into anxiety every time you make an ass of yourself #happiness

Recently I screwed up big time at work and panicked. It’s been a while since I experienced such anxiety when your heart races, you get tunnel vision, beat up yourself endlessly and your mind is engaged into a negative thought loop, and you just can’t stop it. The worst part is that after talking to my boss I realised it was not a major catastrophe, but rather a minor hiccup which I should not have dwelled on for so long.

I was unpleasantly surprised and even shocked. Years of meditation and work on making myself calmer, more balanced, thought watching and filtering, working to attain peace and lightness of being – and I spiral into anxiety so easily and over so little? I was determined to never do it again so I created a one pager that summarises the key learnings about failing better and changing your mindset and that I can use next time anxiety rears its ugly head. Temp

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The Meditator #happiness #

With spring comes awakening. Creativity buds and blossoms together with crocuses, cherry trees and daffodils. I can’t draw so I create collages. This one is called The Meditator. In meditation there is an exercise where you imagine that you are plugged into Earth through a golden thread or cable coming out of your heart. I don’t remember where I learned about it but it really helped me through winter. Refill your batteries this spring and create something wonderful for the world to see, my dear nomads!

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Rescued by spring

Thank you, my dear spring,
For dropping by so early
Or even just on time.
For joy and hope you bring,
For sunshine and for smiles.

For filling me with light.
For saving me from cold
Those dark and empty nights
That freeze my poor soul.

Thank you for snowdrops
And filling in the colours.
You did transform the rain
And changed the sky and clouds.

I feel alive again.
Birds sing, light blinds,
I smile.
Thank you, my dear spring,
For showing up on time!

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The School of Life Career Crisis cards #purpose #meaning #happiness

For me happiness has many levels. I am happy where I am, but I also want to grow. Overcoming my internal blocks and realising my purpose in life, doing what I was born to do, placed on this Earth to do is my next level. It took a while to accept that writing may be my purpose that I need to explore and my blog is a big part of it. This card from TSOL series is a brilliant reminder why it’s important to acknowledge, accept and action on what we call career anxiety:


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‘Hello, my name is Doris’ is not what you think it is. Must see for love addicts #happiness


What attracted me to this movie was Max Greenfield the idea, I thought it would be a bubbly romcom about a delusional, yet adorable, old lady with lots of laughs and aww moments. A bit like Happy Go Lucky or Frankie & Grace. Yep, I do love stories about older folks finding love. Psychoanalyse me! 🙂

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How to live a good life #happiness

I’ve been recently exploring the idea of realising life purpose or calling in work that we do. Almost by accident I stumbled into this book by Jonathan Fields. It’s not about living your purpose as such but it has amazing quotes, for example:

What if you don’t so much have a passion or purpose as much as you pursue something, or a bunch of things, with passion and a sense of purpose.

It’s okay if no single spark ever rises to the level of all-consuming ‘mad passion’ or ‘life purpose’. More important is just the feeling of being sparked.


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What stands in the way becomes the way #happiness

I thought I’d share this post about the book that Linkedin VP of talent apparently gives to his colleagues – it contains great book recommendation as well as motivational one liners like the one in the headline or How you do anything is how you do everything. 

‘What stands in the way becomes the way’ is particularly a strong reframing, re-energising mantra/ formula. I applied it when dealing with a challenging situation at work and it does work – it reframes your thinking and rather than let you slump and give up energises you for achieving the end goal. Are you preventing me from achieving my goal? You say it’s impossible? Well, I am not giving up, buddy, and it’s happening either way!

It reminds me of Mark Manson’s book that I wrote about before and his idea that ‘Happiness ≠ no problems’ but rather ‘Happiness = better problems’. You need obstacles to be happy.

‘How you do anything is how you do everything’ is another powerful phrase – and a good reminder for slackers like me. Rather than spend time complaining about how your situation is so awful and looking for alternatives, maybe focus on what you are doing instead and give it 100%?

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